September 29, 2007

Be Reconciled

Shining Surf Panama City Beach FL

Post written 9-28-2007

This has been one of the most incredible weeks since our move from Hawaii. A lot of stuff has been worked on by Woody and me in our relationship and in life in general and some big decisions have been made. There have also been some major life changing events in the offing, but first the news...

First of all my foot is a lot better. The doctor is cautious about my returning to work but is encouraging me to put some weight on it and try to walk as I can in the boot. No encouragement needed, but last saturday I overdid and it really hurt. This whole week I have been trying to not over do but stay as active as I can within reason. I need little encouragement for that. The doctor thinks it will be two more weeks before work is an option.

Woody has not felt like it was the right thing to be leaving me alone for long periods of time. First, I will do too much in the house, and second, I could get stuck and need help, like I did today... I couldnt get enough lift with the boot on to stand up straight. The pain is getting less and less with every passing day which is good.

Woody, in a rather unexpected moment a few weeks back declared to me that he was very sorry that he had bought the Crossfire and had caused all of the grief that has gone with it. For me, that car has come to symbolize so many of the inadiquacies of our relationship... and I know that the huge payments are swallowing up chunks of his retirement...while the sorry thing is depreciating at a rate faster than he is getting the note paid off so we are more and more "upside down" in the thing. I found myself cursing the thing when I would see it...Like the woman with VD after her husbands affair, the pain of the transgression loomed large on my mind. I could never quite get away from it and be at peace about it

To add insult to injury, the Avalon that Woody bought as a sort of running around vehicle is a clunker after all and is in the shop repeatedly. We are pouring money down a rat hole with that.

So we came to the decision that Woody would try to sell both cars. We didnt think he would get a dealeship to buy him out of the contract for the Crossfire, but his former employers at Honda of Fayetteville did and as we were taking I sugested that we throw the Avalon into the deal just to get rid of it. Since he bought it from them not that long ago, he got his purchase price out of it against another car. They took the Crossfire in trade for the pay off, so we are clear there. I agreed to sign for the car loan...after years of struggle my credit is 4 star and we got a decent intrest rate and terms...so tonight sitting in our drive is a 2008 Honda Accord. I drove it home and felt a touch of the thrill that I used to have when driving the LHS that I left in Hawaii. I am green with envy that Woody gets this new car. The second one in three months. I try not to be too jelous and remember that this will likely be the last new car he gets to buy...The money is pretty much gone and I cant see him taking a job that will get it all back into the bank again... The neighbors commented that we have a gold fleet now.. as bith the van and the Accord are that shiny gold color...

But now we are out of the Crossfire and out of the constant struggle with the Avalon...and the two of us are in one Accord...(we like that little pun a lot)

We are taking the car on a journey, that may take our little family in a new direction. We shall see how things go, but for now we are reconciled, which is the way things should be, and all is well, at least in our driveway for now.

Labels: Breaking News, Woody